Since my last blog I interviewed four women.
These women are strong, courageous, and beautiful. In the interview I asked
them some very personal questions.I’m not going to reveal who these women are
till the end of the blog. Throughout the blog as you read I hope you take their
personal experiences to heart. Also at the end of this video I will link a short clip about domestic violence.
Interview one M.L
Q-When and where was you born?
A- I was born November 23, 1974 in Richlands Virginia.
Q-Was you ever a victim of domestic violence?
A-Yes I was.
Q-How old was you when the abuse started.
A-I was seventeen years old.
Q-About how long did it last?
A-About eight years.
Q-Did you ever try to leave, and if you did leave what would happen?
A-Yes I left several times. He would hunt me down and make me come back. Once I came back the the abuse would be worse.
Q-Was it hard to leave?
A- Extremely I had nowhere to go. One time I left and I ended up with a brokeback, broke jaw, and a busted ear drum.
Q-Did you ever feel like it was your fault?
A-He made me feel like everything was my fault.
Q-What finally motivated you to get out?
A-He began abusing my children and he began making them watch him abuse me.
Q-Do you still suffer from a lack of self esteem?
A- Yes it took me years to begin getting it back but, it's something that I will never fully regain.
Q-In all how do you feel now, are you happy?
A- I’m very happy and I love my life.
Interview two S.l
Q-Currently how old are?
A-I’m 21.
Q-How did it feel to watch your mother being abused?
A-It was sick and depressing. It made me feel sick.
Q-What do you remember most?
A-Him hitting her, choking her, throwing her down and out of moving vehicles.
Q-Do you remember be abused by your father?
A-Yes I remember it very well.
Q-Do you think going through this at a young age affects your relationships now, especially with men?
A- It does very much.
Interview three R.l
Q-How old are you?
A- I’m 19.
Q- Do you remember your mother being abused by your father?
A yes I do.
Q-Did you ever feel like it was your fault.
A-I’m not really sure. I was too young to remember.
Q-Do you remember being abused by your father.
A- I remember getting major spankings.
As you might have already guessed my blog was about my family.
The three women I interviewed was my mother Misty and my two sisters Samantha and Rikki. Since I was a small child when this mostly occurred I don’t remember these events happening. But I do know I two also suffered at the hands of my father the same way my mother and sisters did. Personally I do not see my family and I as victims, but as survivors
Interview one M.L
Q-When and where was you born?
A- I was born November 23, 1974 in Richlands Virginia.
Q-Was you ever a victim of domestic violence?
A-Yes I was.
Q-How old was you when the abuse started.
A-I was seventeen years old.
Q-About how long did it last?
A-About eight years.
Q-Did you ever try to leave, and if you did leave what would happen?
A-Yes I left several times. He would hunt me down and make me come back. Once I came back the the abuse would be worse.
Q-Was it hard to leave?
A- Extremely I had nowhere to go. One time I left and I ended up with a brokeback, broke jaw, and a busted ear drum.
Q-Did you ever feel like it was your fault?
A-He made me feel like everything was my fault.
Q-What finally motivated you to get out?
A-He began abusing my children and he began making them watch him abuse me.
Q-Do you still suffer from a lack of self esteem?
A- Yes it took me years to begin getting it back but, it's something that I will never fully regain.
Q-In all how do you feel now, are you happy?
A- I’m very happy and I love my life.
Interview two S.l
Q-Currently how old are?
A-I’m 21.
Q-How did it feel to watch your mother being abused?
A-It was sick and depressing. It made me feel sick.
Q-What do you remember most?
A-Him hitting her, choking her, throwing her down and out of moving vehicles.
Q-Do you remember be abused by your father?
A-Yes I remember it very well.
Q-Do you think going through this at a young age affects your relationships now, especially with men?
A- It does very much.
Interview three R.l
Q-How old are you?
A- I’m 19.
Q- Do you remember your mother being abused by your father?
A yes I do.
Q-Did you ever feel like it was your fault.
A-I’m not really sure. I was too young to remember.
Q-Do you remember being abused by your father.
A- I remember getting major spankings.
As you might have already guessed my blog was about my family.
The three women I interviewed was my mother Misty and my two sisters Samantha and Rikki. Since I was a small child when this mostly occurred I don’t remember these events happening. But I do know I two also suffered at the hands of my father the same way my mother and sisters did. Personally I do not see my family and I as victims, but as survivors
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| My mother and I Photo by Bre love. |
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| Me and the man I call my father. Photos by Bre love. |
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| Our family. photos by Bre Love. |
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| My two sisters. photos by Bre Love. |
This post is to the point and also eye opening. I also think that your family did go through a lot, you are a survivor and so are your family members. I was abused as a child and know how hard it is my step-father used to hit my mother when he came home drunk and would hit me when I got in his way. I felt so useless to stop it, I think your post was great!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. It's really nice to know their is someone else who knows what it feels like. I'm very fortunate to have my step father whom I call my father. Your comment means a lot to me!
DeleteGreat blog, although there's a few grammar issues. I loved the story, it taught me a lot about you and your family's life.
ReplyDeleteI struggled with trying to write out the interview because I didn't wanna change how they said it to much. Thanks for the comment, I'm glad it could help you get to know me better!
DeleteThis post is very inspirational, but the only thing that I would recommend is that their a few grammar issues. Second, I give all of these women major respect because they've have been through so much and they only deserve the best.
ReplyDeleteThanks I appreciate your comment. I struggled with the grammar and how it was wrote because I didn't wanna change how they answered the questions to much. I agree my mom, sisters, and I have been through a lot so thank you!
DeleteI know it was hard for all of you, and although it will never be perfect it will be easier to deal with, soon even the memories will fade.
ReplyDeleteThank you're comment meant a lot to me!
DeleteI really like this post. I love what you are doing. You are doing a great job explaining abuse. I like the clip as well.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much!It's kinda hard though. I've been trying to break it down and explain where younger people can better understand it.
DeleteThis is the kind of the thing that can change your perspective on a person, really good post! Also, I think since it's personal you can really put your feelings into it. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteThanks I really appreciate your comment. That is the reason I chose to do this blog. Since I've seen it up close in personal it's easier to tell other people about it and teach other people about it.
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