How to get help

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In this blog I’m going to explain how you can get help if you’re a victim of relationship abuse. Many people do not know the precautions to take when they are being abused. I believe if we teach people that they do have other options there will be less people falling victim to abuse.

In the beginning when you realize that your partner is starting to become “abusive” you first need to talk to somebody. A good person to discuss this with would be someone who is older and that your close too. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a family member ,It can be a friend or if you don’t feel comfortable discussing this with a friend or family member there are several hotlines you can call. Hotlines are numbers you can call and talk to people about your situation, you can remain strictly anonymous if you wish. The hotline will give you advice and other options.

The next step would be if you feel safe enough, discuss with your partner about how you feel. If your partner is open to you and doesn’t “harm” you when you talk to them about it. After you get them to open up to you about the matter easily slide in the topic of going to some kind of counseling for couples. If your partner is hostile then obviously there is no working it out or fixing the relationship. Then you need to get out of wherever you are and go somewhere that you will be safe.

If you have no one to turn to or a safe environment to go to a perfect place to go is a shelter. There are tons of shelters all over the U.S.. These shelters take in millions of women but sadly only a few men. A shelter usually gives you clothes if you need them, they will feed you,and give you a place to stay.

Since overcrowding has been taking place in the shelters of North Carolina, The United Family Services are building a new place in Charlotte. It will offer up to 80 beds and have material for people who will be staying for long term. The new building will accommodate to several of the peoples needs such as transportation and emergency needs.

I hope this will be helpful to anybody who is battling with an abusive relationship and do not know how to get out of it.

  


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Abuse in middle school

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In this blog I’m going to discuss abusive relationships between teens. I thought this would be a good topic to cover since most of my followers are teenagers. I hope in this blog that you will learn the importance of teen abuse. Further down in the blog I’ll cover some statics, ways to prevent abuse, and who to go to for help if you're being abused.


First I’m going to begin with middle schoolers.


azfamily.com reported that “1,500 middle school students showed that one in six had experienced dating violence in the last six months,The number percentage of middle schoolers being abused is steadily going up."


After reading this I was very surprised. I personally never thought about middle schoolers being in abusive relationships. At that age I was more worried about who was going to the movies that weekend.


To honest I can see why teens in middle school are targeted. Older people can manipulate them into going along with it. Younger teens probably enjoy the attention from the older person and go along with the abuse. What child isn’t really going to be scared going against an adult or older person? At a young age we are taught to listen to the adults and to trust most of them. I think when younger teens become “involved” with older people, they think that since their older they know what their doing and it must be ok if they say it is.


What middle schoolers should do if they become involved in a abusive relationship? If you are feeling uncomfortable and unsafe while dating someone you should tell somebody. You are in middle school they’re plenty of people willing to help you. The biggest question people like to bring up is what if they are to scared to speak up. Well, more parents need to discuss with their children and teens that if someone is hurting them they need to ask for help right away.


We really need to get the point across that they don’t have to be scared somebody can help them. You need to know that no matter what the circumstances are you can get some kind of help. I honestly think that if we start talking about abusive relationships with the younger population it might decrease the percentage of abuse in the long run.

Men being abused

 In this blog i’m going to discuss men being abused in a relationship. I honestly don’t think this topic is talked about enough. Why is that, why don’t we bring up men being abused? Well, in this next blog I hope I can answer your questions about men in abusive relationships. 
Some of the questions I will try to answer are how do they hide being abused, How does it affect them, and why do they put up with it. I do plan on covering some other material about abuse in this blog. But I’m mostly going to focus on the men.
When I began researching this topic I was shocked when I discovered that Denis Campbell said "about 40% of domestic violence victims are males." and is steadily increasing each year. I had no clue that the percentage would be so high. The main reason men being abused is less frequently talked about is because it’s mostly ignored by the police. When men report being abused by their spouse police take it very lightly. But when a woman is abused it’s a very serious matter, why is that?

The Observer said that “men are often treated as second-class victims.”  I also learned in this article that since most of the men's cases of abuse are ignored, the percentage could be higher. Another thing I discovered was that most men are reluctant to come out and report their abuse is because, they do not want to seem weak and unmanly.
Personally I think there should be battered shelters for men not just for women. We have all these places and assistance for abused women but nothing too big for men. I was very frustrated to learn that most shelters only let in a small number of men, but they accept a larger number of women.
Abuse is the same for men and women. It can be physical, emotional, and mental. No matter what your sexual orientation is. People are very close minded to this topic and it's extremely unfair to men.

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I hope in this blog I was able to answer some of your questions. I’ve only scratched the service of men in abusive relationships. If you have any information please do not hesitate to share thanks!

First post

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I've decided to write about abusive relationships. I believe it’s an important topic that isn’t discussed enough with today’s youth. Teenagers need to know how to either prevent or get out of a abusive relationship.

I think that some teenagers don’t realize how big of a deal it really is. Maybe if more teens had a wider knowledge of the subject the percentage of abusive relationships would decrease. Of course abuse won’t just magically disappear but educating the younger population will hopefully make it less frequent.

In this blog I’m going to talk about many things such as, the different types of abuse, signs that your partner might become abusive, and how to get out of a abusive relationship. These are just a few things I will talk about in my blog. I plan on covering a lot of material in this blog.



What I hope for people to learn from this blog is that they do not deserve to be abused or how to prevent it. What you take from this blog is entirely up to you. If you don’t learn anything from this and see it as irrelevant at least you will know the severity of this topic.

I find this topic interesting because one it can happen to anyone at anytime. It doesn’t matter if your rich or poor it’s very possible for you to be abused. I also was surprised to learn that there are many different kinds of abuse. What I find very interesting is what people do when they are in a abusive relationship.

I also would like to add that all questions and comments related to the subject are much wanted. Your questions and comments will help me know if I’m getting the point across and if your understanding the material.

Well, that’s the end of today’s post. I will hopefully have the next one up soon!